It’s all just too much.
I have lost all confidence in my ability to live my life, to do anything. The odd sensation is when your brain stops normal function, and you question what you are doing with your life and your very existence. Thirty-four years old and having both a mid-life and existential crisis simultaneously.
My doctor wants me to step back from work and figure things out, like my medicine and psychological state. My sleep is wrecked. I am constantly worrying and stressed. My mind wanders around aimlessly.
What am I supposed to do with myself? Where can I find answers?
Everyone in my family is concerned about me. My depression and anxiety are all-consuming.
Recently, I spoke with my mother about my plight. She sat me down and asked, “What brings you pleasure?” It took me way too long to answer the question. I sat staring off into space for at least two minutes.
Music brings me joy. I enjoy listening to it, buying it, and collecting it. I am forever browsing eBay and Discogs for albums I don’t have, or that “holy grail” album I have been itching for some seems like forever.
I go on genre binges, buying and collecting albums from a specific, niche genre. Here lately, it’s been New Age, Ambient. Honestly, new age and ambient music have been a staple on my iTunes and Plex server for over ten years.
I love rare tapes and albums that have seen the light of day maybe once or twice. I find that rare New Age tapes from the 1980s are fantastic. Albums that have the same feel as Ray Lynch’s masterpiece Deep Breakfast or Steve Roach’s Structures from Silence are what I love to find and listen to the most.
When I’m stressed out, I listen to music. I lock myself in my room, turn on my stereo, sit back, and allow the music to wash over me. My music is akin to Linus’s blanket from Charlie Brown. I can’t seem to be without it. It brings me comfort and joy.
My mother said, “if the music brings you joy, why don’t you write about it, or do a podcast, even DJ.”
I don’t know where to begin even getting into radio, podcasting, etc. I have Masters’s degree in communication, yet I am afraid of stepping out and taking a chance.
I have to go after opportunities; opportunities won’t come to me. Where does one begin doing something they love? How does someone do something that brings them joy as a career?
I told my psychologist that I feel like a car without gas. The car works, it will turn on, but there is no forward movement. You can play with the accessories, turn the AC on, and run down the battery, but the vehicle will not move forward or backward. It is stuck.
I can’t just buy confidence at Walgreens. I can’t purchase self-assurance. Honestly, I wish I could “fake til I make it.” I have never been able to succeed at that, however hard I try.
I am not seeking an answer to my problems. I’m just trying to get my thoughts out—a stream of consciousness attempt to get the stress and anxiety out. As I type this out and listen to Goldfrapp’s 2010 album Head First on vinyl, my favorite track comes on, “I wanna life,” over my Bose speakers.
“I wanna life, I want it now for ever..”
Have you ever wanted a life but weren’t sure what you were doing with the one you have?
I need something to give me petrol for the gas tank of my life. Is there a AAA for ones life? Is there a roadside assistance program for people’s whose life vehicles are need of help?
Do you ever feel like, it’s all just too much? That you’d like to turn off the world, just run away?
Barbra Streisand (The Concert)